Just Don't Let the Wheels Come Off and Keep Fighting

When it all goes to hell

We all know the drill.  We set a plan, a grandiose plan.  We have the meals prepped, the workouts scheduled, the nutrition products standing by for support.  The gym membership is secured and there are no problems in sight.

It goes great for a week or two.  You're seeing the results...its working!  We start to settle into cruise control.  Is it really this easy?

Then, it all goes to hell.

The tire explodes on the way to work, and your coffee spills all over your suit.  You're late for work and get a mouthful from the boss.  You have to stay late because you're behind.  The wife calls: Billy's got a temperature.  The overweight and insecure coworker is pushing a box of doughnuts at you.  

"Don't you ever cheat? Jeez."

You are losing our shit.  With all the mayhem you had to skip lunch and now you haven't eaten for hours.  And you still have a tough workout to get to after work.  The stomach is growling. You haven't drank enough water.  And this stupid suit is so damn hot.

You finally escape work.  You're determined to get to the gym, at least you can do that much.  

Wife calls back.  Billy's got a stomach bug.  You gotta come home. 

By the end of the day you're exhausted.  Might as well grab a beer.  Maybe two.  Maybe four.  There's a little bit of cake left over, might as well shovel that in for comfort.  You still haven't drank enough water.

From a healthy active lifestyle standpoint, today was an abysmal failure.  Or was it?

One day at a time. One moment at a time.

Above is just one example of how that little thing called life can get in the way of your plans.  And guess what?  Everybody has to deal with it.  Even the social media stars, with their apparently perfect little lives, have to deal with it.  

Everybody gets tired, overwhelmed, and into negative thinking habits.  This is unavoidable.  The key in my eyes is this:  Don't let the wheels come off.  You can shake, you can shudder, you can have a bad day, maybe even a few bad days in succession.  But for your own life purpose, your soul, your mission, you cannot afford to let it all fall apart.

Even the seemingly healthiest people on earth have just as many problems as anybody else.  It is a matter of priority.  If one of your priorities is to be a healthy you then you will find a way to get it done.  

Sometimes, we're taught by certain groups that making a concerted effort towards yourself and bettering yourself is somehow selfish.  It is not.  That is a lie, a vicious lie, that must be stamped out.

If you're not healthy yourself, then guess what?  OTHER PEOPLE HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU.  We see this time and time again.  Don't let it be you.  

To me, one key concept, and one that is not in anyway new, is that you have to focus on what you can control, and let the rest brush past you.  You have to roll with the punches that life will throw.  

You cannot control when your tire explodes, or your check engine light comes on, or the weather, or what your neighbor thinks, or what the government is doing.  I used to dwell on these things and it brought me nothing but misery.

So focus on what you can control, which is the fundamentals.  Keep the wheels on the car.  Even if the windows broken and the wipers don't work, keep that 'sum bitch moving towards your goals.

So what exactly can we control in a world that seems so chaotic?

1) Your breathing

Controlling and mastering your breathing is perhaps the most important habit you can make.  No matter what life throws at you, if you can control your breathing and learn to breath correctly, you can greatly reduce the effect that life stresses have on you.

Most people breathe shallowly, into the upper chest.  The correct way for a human being to breathe is to take the air deep down, past the solar plexus, into the belly.  You should feel your waist slightly expand as you breathe.  This will ensure a full lung capacity as well as allowing optimal exhalation which gets rid of C02 and other toxins and actually helps to regulate the pH and electric systems in the body.  

Proper breathing promotes lower cortisol, lower stress overall, more fat loss, more energy and much, much more.  

2) Drinking clean water

With extremely rare exceptions, especially in America, we all have access to some sort of potable water source.  No matter how busy life is, you have to find time to drink plenty of water to keep yourself hydrated.  Along with breathing, proper hydration is crucial for fat loss, energy levels, stress levels and the health of every cell in your body.

Water intake cannot be compromised.  If you work somewhere and it seems to be a problem that you are attempting to keep yourself alive through the act of hydration, then perhaps its time to find a new job.  

There is no excuse from an employers standpoint to keep his employees dehydrated.  

Don't overcomplicate things with water.  If you don't like the taste, then just drink a large glass quickly.  If you can, carry a water bottle with you and keep it constantly full.  If possible, find heavily filtered water which is even better.  But, tap water is better than no water.

3) Positive thinking

I can't tell you how frustrated I get at times when I read the news and have to hear about the generation of another victim-group.  

Let's just get this out of the way:  Nobody controls your thoughts or reactions to other people's thoughts, but you.  Nobody but you.  There is no exception, period.  Claiming that someone else's language or opinions in any way affect you is the lowest form of victimhood and it is a cancerous thought pattern that should be tamed and disciplined.  Once you start to let "little old me" control your thoughts, nothing else can save you.  You will be doomed because in real life most people don't directly support you, so you won't have the mental toughness to battle through to victory.

Positive thinking comes from practice like anything else.  Mental toughness comes from practice.

The best way to harbor positive thinking is to do uncomfortable things.  Do something uncomfortable each day, and see how your fearful thinking (that's what negative thinking is: fear based thinking) metamorphasizes into toughness.

Creating a bullet-proof core belief

Not letting the wheels come off is embracing the grind.  Its feeling the fear, and doing it anyway.  Its taking total control of your thoughts and refusing to let other people control them.  Its visualizing a goal so bad that you can't wait to get out of bed to go get it.  

Nobody can control your breathing, your water intake or your positive thinking in most cases.  

These are your core structures.  This is the bullet proof core that the haters can't breach.  Nobody but you can access it.  You have the only code, the only key.




If you focus on these basics, day in and day out, then the magic will happen.  These practices will create the foundation, then you will expand.  Suddenly, you're interested in reading food labels.  Suddenly, because you're not so concerned about what the other insecure people are projecting onto you, you're taking chances.  Maybe its a new job.  Maybe its a bigger fitness goal, maybe a half-marathon.  Maybe a full.  Maybe an iron man.

Hell, maybe you'll climb mount Everest.

One deep breathe at a time.  One glass of water at a time. 

One positive thought at a time.

Ben Hetzel

Health Coach / Nutritionist

Benjamin Hetzel