Nobody is coming to save you

What is the one thing that I tell my clients concerning their perceived mental illness, at least where we have established a definite link of trust?  That nobody is coming to save them.  This is the bitter truth.  Its not always met with a positive retort.  Whatever.  I'm not here to pamper people, I'm here to help them as fast as possible and so cutting straight to the matter is sometimes the best way.

From my research and personal experience I've found that a lack of personal responsibility is behind a lot of perceived "psychological disorders".  Again this is not something that someone usually wants to hear.  And again, that's not my problem.  

There's only one real, genuine way to help somebody unselfishly.  You have to do what you really think is going to help them the most.  Sometimes, the most helpful thing can be perceived as hurtful.  

We all have to do this sometimes.  Sometimes kicking that horrible person out of the house, even if you love them, is the best thing to do because it will help them GROW.  That is the key.  Will this experience help them grow, or will it foster the stagnation that is a large part of the mental problem to begin with?

We have created a society where it is actually quite in vogue to brag about disease publicly and hold on to it like some sort of award.  Then, when someone comes along and gives these people the cold-water treatment, the proverbial knowledge slap in the face, they actually get angry and attempt to defend their excuses.  They can get quite feisty and even aggressive.

How dare you attempt to help them claim responsibility and ultimately personal power and control.  

How dare you fail to coddle them and foster more excuses and stagnation.

And that's really what it all comes down to isn't it?  Refusing responsibility, for whatever reason?  

People get very angry when you try to help them out of the cellar.  Its nice and cool down there and the walls feel so safe.  They don't want to come out into the bright light and unknown environment.

A huge part of this victim mentality that has gripped the country is not understanding what I mean by "responsibility".  Lots of people take great responsibility of things around them, like putting their children and family first, or responsibly handling money, or whatever it is.

I'm talking about mental responsibility.  Willpower.  Strength.  Confidence.  A steel casing of mental armor.

And many psychiatric / psychological / pseudodiseases like depression, anxiety, or ADD are direct attacks against personal, mental responsibility.  They require you do give away your power to someone or something, many times a psychiatrist or other mental health professional.  

"I need YOU to save ME."

And there's certainly nothing wrong with reaching out to an elite team of experts and support groups.  But there's one person that trumps anyone you can seek out, any drug, any "guru", any magical formula. 

Its you.  Its your mind.  

Hello there, can you hear me?  I don't think you can.  I think that who is reading this right now is probably not even you.  Its an imposter, a glitch.  Its your ego.

I'm not talking to your stupid ego.  I'm not going to try and negotiate with terrorists.  Its a waste of time.  That stupid ego of yours, and mine, and everyone's, is 95% of the time speaking negative and demeaning things to YOU.  Its telling you how worthless you are, how stressed your life is, how fucked up your relationships are, your lack of goals, your pathetic existence, why you don't make any fucking difference in the world.  

That person is close minded, judgemental and ignorant.

I'm talking to YOU.  I'm talking to the person that is listening to all this nonsense!  I'm talking to the real you, the infinite you, the right brained you, the imaginative and brilliant you, the fearless you.

The ego is always trying to find outside things to "save" you from whatever problem or situation you're currently dealing with.  Say you are broke.  The ego will start to create excuses, blaming other things, and looking to other external factors to fix a problem that, realistically, doesn't even exist and so therefore cannot be solved.

Don't believe me?  

Think about this.  You're broke, in debt, with the repo man at the door.  Should you be concerned about the situation?  Of course.  Should you start to get down on yourself?  Absolutely not.  

See, getting down on yourself, like looking for external things for internal problems, achieves absolutely nothing.  There is no positive benefit for constantly being worried and anxious.  In the short term these are essential emotions because we become aware that there is a problem and we need to address it.  But this emotion is not supposed to last for a prolonged time.  It is unhealthy and the body knows it.

Yet we have people suffering from depression or anxiety for decades, simply because their ego is in control and they don't know it.  

That's really the key to the whole situation right there.  They don't know that they don't know.  This is a problematic scenario.  Not knowing that they don't know.  

Here's the three stages I've come up with for gaining knowledge and introspection and therefore adding support to the personal responsibility mechanism that we use to avoid mental disease...

1) You don't know that you don't know (Ego is in control.  Psychologists estimate that at any moment there is a 95% chance our ego or "false self" is in control).

2) You realize that you don't know.  You've unmasked the monster of ignorance, shed the ego a bit and admitted that you don't know what's going on.  In this case it would be simply analyzing your own thoughts, preferably through meditation, and becoming aware that there's a pirate running the ship (the ego).

3) You know.  Ah.  Now you get it.  You realized fully that your ego, which manifests often as that "little voice", is actually nothing more than exactly that: a little voice.  It holds no power over you.  Yes, you will still seek out outside help and support because in the end this is a team journey.  But now, you have taken full responsibility, discarded that giant basket of excuses your ego has been giving you, and have realized what this article is all about.

Nobody is coming to save you.

This is a process, though you can giant quantum leaps in development if you seek them out.  But its not going to be overnight.  But you can start. RIGHT NOW.  You can begin to analyze your thoughts at first, don't control them, just observe.  You are the observer of those thoughts.  Those thoughts are not you, they are products of your false-self.  When you shine a light on this you will begin to have total control of your thoughts.  

There is absolutely no body of evidence outside of government mind control that can prove what I just said wrong.  This is the last stand at the Alamo for the ego and the excuses and negative thinking.  So just get used to the fact that you have control over all of this.  You.  Only you.  Will shit happen along the way?  Of course.  But the old proverb says:

"Pain is inevitable, suffering is not."

This is absolutely correct.  Pain here is something that causes you to manifest the thought and therefore emotional equivalent of fear or anxiety.  This is inevitable in life.  But suffering and clinging to these experiences and allowing the ego to take over and convince you that you need to be depressed or anxious your entire life is NOT.


Obviously there are factors leading into depression like nutrition, environment and sometimes genetics.  But the key here is that all these things affect your thoughts and therefore your emotions so if you can get straight to the source you can bypass a lot of trouble.  What I mean by that is good nutritious food will always help the mental attitude, as will mother nature, relationships and what not.  But in the end its our thoughts that create our reality.  This is why for some bizarre (and ultimately caused by mainstream medicine and dogma) reason there is actually more depression in the United States, with the most freedom, the most technology, the most money, and all the opportunities in the world, than many third world countries where people literally live in primitive huts and can't even find clean water.

These countries simply haven't bought into the victimhood system like many people have in the west.  In some of these, let's say African societies, there simply is no such thing as psychiatric disease in their mindset.  It doesn't exist.  

Maybe we should start thinking about how powerful we are and how privileged we really are to live in the U.S. instead of constantly seeking to find new diseases so we can blame our lack of personal responsibility on something else and then expect someone / something else to come save us.

Benjamin Hetzel